Jun162013

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Survival Survey: What does being a Survival Dad mean to you?

image by Josh Parrish

image by Josh Parrish

June is the month of Father’s Day and with that in mind, I wanted to ask the dads and grandpas out there what it means to be a Survival Dad.

Do you feel the future security of your family is on your shoulders?

Are you the main prepper in your family? Have you convinced family members to join in?

What types of things do you do as a Survival Dad that you didn’t do before?

We’d love to hear from you guys!

 

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(9) Readers Comments

  1. Though part of this generation seems to be losing this trait, most men for centuries gone by have had a deep-seated need to be provider and protector of the family. Even if I didn’t have this trait, my spouse and kids make sure to remind me almost daily what my role is. The Bible (and thus God) doesn’t particularly give me any outs as it says a man who will not care for his family is worse than an infidel.

    I think I speak for a lot of men when I say I could never father a child that I could not be a father to. And I really do love the role. In that sense, I’ve always been a prepper as I am constantly preparing my children (and even my wife) to succeed whether I am around or not. My role has not changed, but the preparedness options have been expanded based on the changing threats – and yes – even the changing opportunities in this world.

    So I’ve had to pay as much attention to natural disasters, economic distress, and civil unrest as I have to education, relationship-building, handling finances, and recreation.

    Hopefully I’ve raised my kids to be kind and compassionate, and have long told them that it is their job to try to create and foster the kind of world they’d like to live in and raise their children in. I have instilled in them the idea that beyond their short-term survival is a longer-term survival that depends on building healthy communities and societies.

    P.S. – And I’ve messed up a bit too (so have my wife and kids). I am hoping they get the importance of forgiveness and restoration.

  2. You can’t prepare for your family by yourself. When I first started preparing for the unknown, I was alone. The family thought it was a good thing, but it was “dad’s thing.” The more I spoke of preparedness, the interest I got, but not necessarily commitment. Then I decided to use more colorful strategies. When watched the old TV show “Jericho,” we watched “The Road,” I suggested books like “One Second After” and “Lights Out.” Now, I have a dedicated preparedness partner in my wife and more vigilant and prepared kids.

    I firmly believe it was my duty as a husband and a father to get us started on this path.

    TRP

  3. Being a “survival” dad means having a good woman at home. Otherwise I am just some paranoid single guy.

  4. Being in my late 60′s and raised 2 sons, my friends and I talk about this frequently. All our kids are married and good jobs, a good marriage, and have kids. What did we do as parents to be this lucky. I think we were a little lucky, having a great wife and Mom, and maybe, setting a good example while the kids were growing up. Treating them and their Mom right, going to work every day, and having dinner every night at the dinner table to talk about the days events.
    As far as preparing is concerned, we live in earthquake country. I gently remind the younger ones to have enough food and water on hand for at least 60 days, have other means of lighting, and to have the proper mindset to get ready for this.

  5. Being a Survival Dad can be summed up in one word: LEADERSHIP. If my family is to survive anything, I have to lead them.

    As a husband and father I have been called by God to be the Leader of my family.

    Our modern culture has distorted what it means to be the Leader of our families. Leadership is NOT bringing home the bigger paycheck, working long hours to buy better things, setting all the rules, nor ruling the home front with an iron fist.

    First and foremost, I am to be the spiritual leader of my wife and little ones. It is my job to lead them to the foot of the Cross.

    As my family’s Leader I must be strong. Strong enough to resist the easy way. Strong enough to do the right things even when they are not the popular things. Strong enough to resist all that can temp a man.

    I must Lead by example. My son and daughter are watching me. My son is learning how to be a man and my daughter is learning how she should be treated by men.

    Leaders are wise. Wise enough to know I am not wise on my own. Wisdom will be freely given to any that ask for it and seek it. Without wisdom from God, I will not make good decisions. Without good and wise decisions my family will fail.

    I have to work. Work is good for a man. I must live and work intentionally and always finish what I start. I cannot be lazy. Work first, play later.

    As mush as a Leader is strong, he must also be gentle. Children and wives can be sometimes be tender creatures.

    Great Leaders are humble. I must be humble and admit when I am wrong and correct my mistakes. Humbly submit to a Power higher than I and ask for the help I so dearly need. I must be humble to learn. I must be humble to improve.

    Leaders have goals and rally others to achieve those goals. I must set goals for my family and do everything I can to help my family achieve them – then set new ones when we’re done.

    Leaders have a plan and they must communicate the plan. My wife and children can’t follow me if they don’t know I am leading.

    Accessible Leaders are loved leaders. My family needs everything from me that has been listed above and they also need my time. My kids will never remember how many weeks in a row I worked late to finish that big project but they will remember when I came to that first recital and when I cheered like crazy at the homecoming game. They will remember me signing to them every night as I tuck them into bed. My wife needs time with her husband that is special time beyond getting the work of the family done.

    Successful Leaders are joyful leaders. I must accept my responsibilities given to me by God with joy and carry them out in love. I can’t grumble and I should never complain – even when its so hard to lead it hurts. I must find joy. I must give joy.

    The truth is that I will fail many times at many of these things. But I must try. I must lead if my family is to survive.

    • Thanks for sharing these insights. Leadership is a very rare commodity these days.

  6. After reading the book “Rich Dad, Poor Dad,” I called my daughter to apologize for teaching her the errors that were passed-down to me, and not providing her with more in-depth, real-world financial education and knowledge.

    The same realization has since come to mind regarding prepping. I prepped for our family, but I didn’t teach/train her to prep on her own.

    I have since done what I can to foster a prepper-instinct within her (and her new husband.) e.g. I offered to give each of them $100 towards the purchase of their own bug out backpacks. I told them that they have to hold at least 40 liters of contents (ideally 60 liters.) I also encouraged them to explore pack weights and durability. Beyond that, they were allowed to do their own thing. (e.g. I didn’t want to make the choice/purchase for them. I wanted THEM to start making their own decisions, and their own purchases.) I have repeated this lesson several times since (to help motivate them to keep prepping.) Sure, I/we have also “gifted” a fair share of prepper items to them as well. But, we are TRYING to get them to learn to be self-preppers, and eventually surpass our own stockpiles and readiness.

    I say this at work, but I need to apply it in my own life, too: “Learn to pass the baton.”

    In the future, I assume that our daughter and son-in-law will need to care for my wife and I? The sooner I teach them to take command and control of their own lives and their own destiny, the more-secure we will ALL be in the future.

    I just wish I would have started earlier (when she was in grade school.)

    Peace.

  7. I have two daughters, both out of college now. We all know what it was like to be that age. Immortal, Invincible. One daughter “gets it” the other, not so much. Anyway, my first step was to simply prepare enhanced BOBs for them to keep in their cars. My argument was “humor me, it’s just taking up a little space in your trunk and it didn’t cost you a dime.”

    They went along with that.

    Of course, my personal supplies are set to allow for both kids to being home. I do everything I can to be ready for an extended outage of power, food or water and to provide them with what they need to get home, or places to rendezvous if I have to go get them

    Part of the enhancement to their bags is maps with marked routes to our primary and secondary rally points (Home and BOL) and a book with “lost communications” procedures so we have a plan to reconnect without cell phones and internet.

    Anyway, just before the hurricane hit New York and the East Coast, I get a panicked call from my oldest daughter when she realized the storm might hit her.. “What do I do? What if I lose power, what if I have to leave?” I had her get the BOB and finally look in it. The light came on.. Flashlights.. Small Stove.. Food.. Space blankets.. The usual collection we all know.. Then I told her.. “One time offer. The “Bank of Dad” is now open.. Here is a list of supplies you need to get NOW (before the hordes rush to the store) use my credit card, but here is the catch.. From now on you will always keep this level of supplies at your house”

    She agreed.

    I know it’s not the perfect survival dad story. Real life is like that sometimes, but when you are working with independent “adult” children you can’t order them around, you have to find ways to “teach” instead of lecture.

    The storm passed and my daughter experienced only a few hours without power. The good news is that it woke her up, just a little, to the idea that having some basic preps makes the storms a lot less scary and I succeeded in getting her to stockpile a few weeks of supplies.

  8. I’m a little late for this post but why not comment anyway? I have a wife and two young children. I echo Boomer’s comments about being the head of the family and shouldering a lot of the responsibility. Thankfully, my wife is on board and supports my efforts. Like probably 99% of the other dad’s out there I was not raised up learning field-craft, canning, fire making or any type of back up supply stock piling. However, the way I see it as dad’s in this high tech age we are responsible for learning the low tech skills to keep ourselves and our families as self reliant as we can. Since my children are small, I plan on bringing them up in this mindset and to undertake the ongoing task of learning and practicing these skills together. Hopefully, it will be accepted by them and they won’t need a hurricane bearing down of them for the light bulb to go on. Lord knows they only listen to about 15% of what I say as it is so I’ll see how it goes.

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