Mar142013

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Life goes on and there are only so many tomorrows

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Some of us have become quite pessimistic about the future of America. Dystopian novels, movies, and TV shows become instant hits as we wonder, will the future be more like The Road or Hunger Games? Will my kids grow up in a free world or one in which their freedoms disappear at the whim of politicians?

There’s plenty more pessimism where that came from!

But life goes on. Just tonight I was helping my daughter with a science project, and as she became more and more frustrated, applying fabric glue to little pieces of ric-rac, I said, “Honey, let me do it,” as she went on to finish a homework assignment.

No matter what is happening around me or what the future holds, I still have to be a mom and do mom things.

I still have to plan birthday parties.

I still have to make sure the laundry gets done and that everyone has clean socks and underwear.

Everyday I have to have an answer to the question, “What’s for dinner?”

America may very well be headed toward an economic collapse. It’s hard to imagine any real recovery for an economy in which 47 million Americans are on food stamps, nearly half the population is poor or “low income”, and in January of this year, only 57.9% of the civilian population was employed. There are even more depressing numbers out there if you care to look.

But life goes on.

This weekend my husband will be busy working and I’ll be out in the backyard with the kids pulling weeds. I’ll keep an eye on one of our new cats who has been way too curious about the workings of our doggie door (all our cats are indoor cats) and maybe make some progress on a new knitting project.

When I hear, “Mom, what’s for dinner?”, I’ll need to have an answer.

As a mom, I don’t have the luxury of curling up in a corner, frozen in panic, while my kids try to fend for themselves, and neither do you.

We have to be stronger than we ever thought we could be in spite of the latest headlines because life goes on. Our kids depend on us, and yet each day they grow just a tiny bit older and a tinier bit more independent.

A few weeks ago my daughter and I tried to figure out what grade she’s in. That may sound odd, but when you homeschool, you lose track of those kinds of things. I figured she was in 7th grade because if she was in 8th, that meant she would be in high school next year, and that just wasn’t possible.

But it is possible. She’ll graduate from 8th grade this year and become a high schooler in the fall.

Life goes on.

Every parent should pay attention to the scary headlines and general direction of our country and economy, but don’t let them distract you from the life that is happening right around you every day. Kids need family traditions and memories of birthdays and dinners around the table. They need parents who are interested in what happened at school today and who know the names of their best friend and even their secret crush.

Life goes on and there are only so many tomorrows.

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(22) Readers Comments

  1. You’re absolutely right. As close as we may think we are to the Lord’s return, it could well be our grandkids who are here to see it.

  2. Thank you for that inspiration! It is so easy to get frozen by fear when you spend your life ‘prepping’ and completely forgetting about the day you’re living now. We must find that balance, as moms, to still give our families a full life now, as well as being prepared for what comes down the road then.

  3. Thank you for this post. I needed that this week. I keep finding myself, as a prepping momma, forcing myself to be positive and embrace everyday for my kid’s sake. This is their childhood and as bleak as the future looks I must make the best of each moment.

  4. My son and I were talking the other day about college for his 4 year old daughter. His thoughts were by that time the only degree worth having would be one in agraculture….so she would know how to grow her own food. He is ex career military, single dad, college student, raising her on his own. Kudoos to him. But I have to believe that the future for my grandchildren is not that bleek. As the mom of three, it’s my obligation to continually guide my kids on their path to ‘an always better than the day before’ life. As the parents of three more, it’s their obligation to always guide their kids on the path to the best life possible. To not only dive into new challenges but to also muddle through the everyday chores. We are always on the road to becomming the people we will someday be. Today is yesterdays ‘someday’.

    • We are pre=paying college to lock in a less hideous rate, and it is beyond painful. But we’re managing it and will know our kids can go to college, no matter, which is worth a lot of piece of mind. And I, too, have to hope there will be a point when they get there.

      • Liz: I’m a retiree, my parents and my generation for the most part worked and went to college. Kids don’t want to work as teens anymore. Parents aren’t responsible for paying for college; parents can help out if the money is there but the kids need to work and save for it.

  5. Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear it,

  6. Some people make think it is foolish, but on a sort of whim, my husband and I took our middle school and high school children to Disneyland for the first time at christmas. We had a little extra money at the moment, and decided it was now or never. My husband and I are not big fans of Disneyland and it is not a big deal to us because we have been there numerous times ourselves, and we told our kids that if they wanted to go there, they could go when they grow up because we could never afford to go. We could have used the money to go toward debt, and a car, maybe. I don’t know what the future holds, but I want to go into it with happy priceless memories. We seem to always do the responsible thing over the years, and because of this economy frankly, we have nothing to show for it, so what the heck! For one day we didn’t worry about the bills, school, jobs, the end of the world as we know it, and we have something that no one can ever take away!

    • Good for you!

  7. I’ve been struggling because of essentially this exact issue recently. I love The Walking Dead and I’m reading the book (not graphic novel, book) “The Walking Dead: Rise of the Governor”, but it’s making me even more stressed out. I’m going to finish it, but I really have to take a break from any apocalyptic books for awhile. I should really just go re-read Pollyanna a few times. ;-)

    But the laundry never ends, and the kids always have something they need to get to, and the Cub Scout pack needs rechartered and open positions filled. It does indeed never end. So, while I’m super excited about finding powdered milk on clearance for 50% off, I need to focus more of my energy on getting less unhealthy meals that everyone likes, including more fruits and veggies, and less mac and cheese and grilled cheese.

    And, of course, getting the eldest to the point he can do the laundry without me, and the youngest can assist him.

  8. I rarely comment on your posts – but I really needed to hear this today, and you need to know that you ministered to me – your efforts make a difference, not only in your life and that of your own family; but also in my life and my family’s life, and in the lives of individuals, families and even entire communities. Thank you for your words of wisdom, your constant encouragement to learn a new skill, and for us to keep on keep on keepin’ on. And now I say to you, thank you. Be blessed as you have blessed so many…

  9. Thank you Lisa.

  10. Thank you so much for all you do. You are a blessing and an inspiration.xx

  11. Thank you, Lisa, for putting things in perspective. I needed this.

  12. I know I already commented yesterday, but your post pertains to what I have been struggling with. Being a mother and trying to do all I can for my family it is easy to get overwhelmed. So many current events are piling up.

    However, now more than ever I need to have to be positive for my kids. They only get one childhood. Whether it is peacetime, wartime, bad economy, good economy… Prepping gives me peace of mind and living within our means are invaluable examples for our kids to see and hopefully pick up if their futures are bumpy.

    My goal is to keep it all in perspective. A smile, a hug, baking cookies together, an unexpected kick ball game in the backyard are a few of life’s wonderful memories and great stress relievers.

    Thanks again Lisa! God Bless You!

  13. I’m so grateful to hear someone echo these very thoughts. I too worry about the financial health of our country and I fear what could happen as a result of terrorist attack or any other potential crisis we might face. But, my biggest worries have always been “how can I be sure to give my kids the best life”. The answer is simple…..keep doing what we, as parents, are supposed to do. Be engaged in their lives, be plugged in. Don’t spend all my time online reading and preparing and prepping. If I want them to be happy, I need to be happy too. When I first started to be aware of the idea of preparedness, I was engrossed–and not in a good way. There were times when I was literally paralyzed with fear. I had to check out from those websites that promoted this fear, and instead shift my focus to those things that I could do—-and let God sort out everything else. So, thank you for all of the information you give us–to help us do what we can. The rest, I leave up to Him.

  14. Moms – Don’t beat yourselves up. Knowing how to budget and protect yourself is something that all kids need to know. Life is hard and allowing our kids to see it only strenghtens their inner cores. I have been a single mother for 18 years. My kids watched me hold down two jobs while going to college and being a Scout leader and a Soccer Mom extraordinaire. All the kids know how to live on a budget, shoot a weapon, do their laundry, cook at varying levels, have emergency gear in their vehicles, and can defend themselves in any situation. We have tons of happy memories – family indoor livingroom rugby-basketball games, sledding on cardboard boxes, beanie baby wars, and going on quests to save the kingdom of Montgomery (our dog). My kids still tell stories of the activities on the church bus, blowing stuff up in the backyard with adult supervision, and that the best day for candy is the day after a holiday when it is on sale! My kids are stable and know that even if things go bad, their Mother always has their backs, has a root cellar full of food if they need it, and they can come home at any time as long as they pull their own weight at all times – no handouts for anyone who is capable of working. They know I love them beyond belief and that all that I taught them will come in handy when things get worse. As Moms we need to give ourselves a break. Being truthful about the future is important to our children and they will tell us they appreciate it when they grow older and have children of their own to teach these skills to.

  15. I so much appreciate this post and many of the comments. I, as well, often struggle with “balancing” purchases and day-to-day life with prepping. As moms, we need to remember what Jesus said…..”not the angels in heaven, nor I know the hour and day – only the father knows….” It is difficult with so many headlines and news stories to filter out what is truly happening and how best to prepare. Should I spend the extra money on more beans or go ahead and take the $6.50 and enjoy a once a year matinee with one of my daughters. I applaud the parents who went to Disney- not for the sake of the cost or company – but for the wild, spontaneous moment. We lose that as preppers sometimes. Our family spends every moment (not working at a paid job) together and so, yes, we are making good memories everyday. We all need to keep the balance. It is “stressful” to my daughters that they no longer want to waste the money on buying a 1/2 way ok (under 20.00) pair of shoes when they could be using it to finish out another bug-out-bag. All families should teach their children about budgets, finances, cooking, sewing ,hunting, real life, putting away for a rainy day, etc. but we also should not get too caught up in the “worldly” affairs of men.

  16. Yes, we need to also enjoy our lives we have today. We don’t know if we have tomorrow. Planning for the future is wise, but being frozen by fear is not how the Lord intended for us to live. I sure don’t know everything that God wants, but I do know that one. I believe prepping should be something that helps dissolve our fear, because we are actively taking prudent steps toward protecting and providing for our families. When you think about it, previous generations were “preppers.” My great grandparents had to grow and hunt their food and preserve it properly so that they had something to eat during the winter. There was no medical insurance, and they had to home-treat medical conditions. In a way, we are just reverting back to what our ancestors did, with more knowledge and more items available to assist us than they had. My goal is to prep reasonably, learn new skills for my own development, use my money wisely and generously, and teach my children skills (but not scare them!) to help them in their lives. And pray for guidance, peace and wisdom. God Bless.

  17. This was definitely needed today. As a single grandmamom who just last week joined the unemployed ranks, it has been “interesting” around our house. Using this time to make memories while learning new skills has been a great opportunity we both appreciate. God is in control and will open the right door of all the ones I knock on in the coming weeks. Remembering to laugh and play while I am home is something I needed to be reminded of. Thank you. Besides how many 12 year olds can use a water bath and pressure canner? Supervised at all times of course.

  18. It seems like we could always prepare just a little more and a little more. The prepping itself seems unending. I know its worth it. We have had three instants where we needed our preps. One week without electricity in the winter, two weeks no electric a few summers ago, another week and a half no electric after a wind storm. Kids are so resiliant. But, during those times we still had school work, still had a birthday. When my husband lost his job and we went a month and a half with no paycheck. The kids needed everyday structure and we needed a break. Otherwise we were grouchy and they were confused and teary. So all that to say that it is important to prepare downtime for the family just like you would prepare water or food. Or maybe i should just say i agree with you. Hehe

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