Over the weekend I was talking with a friend whose job is in jeopardy. She works for a school district, funding is being cut, and her job is on the line. I suggested that she might start looking at other ways to earn money. A home-based business, maybe? Refreshing some past skills, perhaps?
Well, my well-intentioned meddling was met with a resounding, “No!” I was informed, in no uncertain terms, that earning extra money was her husband’s responsibility. She couldn’t possibly take on anything more. Her husband’s shift begins at 10 a.m., and he gets home around 8 p.m. How, I wondered, could he work a second job with that schedule, but if I’ve learned nothing else in my fifty years, I’ve learned when to keep my mouth shut.
My friend is having a tough time dealing with her new reality, and I worry about her. The future she envisioned as secure and predictable is now in jeopardy, and her fear is blinding her to the need to take action now, ahead of any calamity. As moms, I’ve just gotta be honest here, we don’t have the luxury of denial. We can’t afford to insist that the world isn’t changing, that our world isn’t changing. Denial and fear keep us from seeing other possibilities, other paths and venturing forward.
If the readers of this blog are still wearing blinders, I’d be surprised. Facing the future with boldness and a proactive attitude, requires wide-open eyes and courage, and what is preparedness if not facing the future and whatever it holds?
If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there and worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the loss of sleep.
Have I lost sleep worrying about the future? Yep. More than once. But then I get over it, say, “What do I need to do?” and buy another dozen cans of tuna and more toilet paper.
I’ve found that information and action are the antidotes to worry and fear. Sometimes what I learn scares me, and it takes a while to process the information. When I do, I find that I’m even more ready to take on the future and even a little bit angry. A little bit of anger can be energizing when it’s channeled into something constructive.
So how are you coping with change?
(a) I’m in the worry and denial stage.
(b) I’m angry that the world is changing.
(c) I’m starting to deal with my fears and being more proactive.
(d) I left fear and denial a long time ago. You should see my stash of supplies!
(e) Something’s changed? When? Where?
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